See below to find out if you behave this way toward your girl/boy friend.
DO YOU:
- restrict his/her contact with other people?
- restrict his/her time away from you?
- get agro if he/she doesn’t agree with you and do as you say?
- physically harm your partner (eg. hit, slap, push) ?
- damage your partner’s personal belongings?
- deliberately hurt your partner’s pets?
- tell her/him what to wear?
- belittle and say nasty, derogatory things including put downs about her/him in front of others?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you could do with some options to turn your relationship into a healthier and happier one.
Help and support is available. Take the first step and pick up the phone and call one of the useful contact numbers on this website.
About Tom's Story
Tom’s behaviour is not ok - he is being abusive. No one has the right to bully anyone else into doing things they don’t want to do. This is not a healthy relationship and Karen did the right thing by leaving. Karen wasn’t prepared to be bullied or controlled and was lucky enough to pick up on the signs that something was wrong and did something about it.
Unfortunately, for lots of girls this doesn’t happen and they feel trapped in abusive relationships, even experiencing severe physical abuse at the hands of their boyfriends.
THIS IS NOT OK.